Sleep Mindset

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How we think about sleep will determine how much sleep we get.

Whoa!!  That’s a pretty big claim, but trust me on this.

If you want to improve your sleep, you have to start with improving our off duty sleeping.  If you want to improve your off duty sleeping, you have to first tackle your sleep mindset.

What are your thoughts about sleep?

Any of these sound familiar?

  • I’ll sleep when I’m dead
  • I don’t have time to sleep
  • There is too much going on for me to sleep today
  • Sleep is a luxury
  • Sleep is not a thing when you work this (EMS) job
  • I’m not going to pay a babysitter to watch my kids while I sleep
  • I have to _______
  • No such thing as sleep with a baby/toddler/tween/teen/young adult
  • I’m a light sleeper
  • I can’t sleep during the day
  • I can’t sleep b/c my spouse snores

Thoughts like those will prevent you from getting the sleep you need. Thoughts are very powerful obstacles!

Most of the above mentioned thoughts are just lies you tell yourself….and you just believe them to be true because you have never stopped to question the thought(s). You may even want to argue with me, that, no…it’s true…I don’t have time to sleep.

When I was really in the heart of my sleep struggles, I had sought out sleep advice from many different experts. None of which improved my sleep until I had a Life Coach explain to me how  my Thoughts create my Feelings, my Feeling will drive my Actions, and the actions I take will produce Results in my life.

 

CTFAR thought Model

I know that I don’t need to tell you how important sleep is.  Our bodies and minds need sleep to function at our highest ability.

If you have been in EMS for any amount of time, you have likely responded to a crash where someone had fallen asleep.

Lack of sleep has very negative effects on our cognitive abilities and affects our physical body as well.

If you are wanting to lose weight, you will have to get your off duty sleep dialed in!

Why is it that we know how important sleeps is yet we STILL DON’T do what needs to be done to get enough of it??

Because of how we Think about sleep.  Sleep mindset.

How we think is directly related to the life we live. Our thoughts will create our results.  If you think shitty thoughts about sleeping…guess what? You’re gonna have shitty sleep. These are not just semantics.  The words that come out of our mouths or the thoughts that stay in your head matter.

Our brains are always scanning for problems. When it finds a problem, it loves to focus on the problem. It feels important to focus on the problem.

When we focus on the problem, we stay IN the problem!! 

When we are IN the problem, we cannot FIND the SOLUTION.

Where focus goes, energy flows.

We have to learn to intentionally focus our brain on the solutions. If thoughts can be obstacles, they can also be the solution.

Focus thinking on how important your sleep is.

  • My body needs to rest and rejuvenate
  • Sleep is my number one fat burner
  • Sleep will help me feel better
  • I deserve to get quality sleep
  • I am at my best when I get adequate sleep
  • Sleep in not a luxury, it is a necessity
  • I choose to sleep now so that I may have a longer life
  • I am a good sleeper
  • I love to sleep
  • Sleep is a priority

When we re-direct our focus to the solution, we will create much different results in our life.  Our brains are good problem solvers, but only when we direct its focus.  My guess is, you have not spent a ton of time on your mindset of sleep. It’s no wonder it hasn’t improved yet.

I have tons and tons of tips and strategies on how to get better sleep, but if we don’t start from the top (brain) down, it won’t be a long term solution.

Does this really matter? Yes. It matters big time.

People want to argue with me that those obstacle thoughts are “true”.  Ok. Maybe. Maybe not.  My question is, why would you want to think them? They don’t serve you. They keep you where you are…stuck and not getting the sleep you need.

We have created the habit of always thinking about, and focusing on the negative, or the problem. It’s what feels most comfortable and familiar. But you don’t HAVE to.

Let’s put this into action. 

Grab the Free PDF Download (click the button at the end of the post) I created for you to write out your thoughts about sleep.  Dump all the thoughts out you have about sleep on these pages.  Don’t edit yourself. It does not have to read like a story, just rando sentences in your head about sleep.

Next spend some time coming up with thoughts you’d like to focus on that will improve your sleep mindset (similar to the examples I provided above!).

After setting the foundation for your sleep mindset, it will be much easier to improve sleep hygiene, and develop a pre-sleep routine!

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This is not like every other EMS group.  Women helping, supporting and encouraging all EMS women.  This industry is hard enough, we need a safe place to get support, mentorship, and friendships.  To join, just answer a few short questions and your request will be approved!  Don’t forget to invite all your lady friends.

Think well my friend.

xo.  Valerie

You can do it

We can do it

I love being a female paramedic.⁠

I decided 20+ years ago that THIS would be my career.⁠

What I wish I had back then was SUPPORT from the other females, family, friends, and co-workers.⁠

People were constantly telling me why I shouldn’t do this, that this job is not for women, I would never be able to be a mom AND still work my crazy hours, that the job would destroy me both mentally and physically.⁠

I can’t image what my career would look like if I’d heard the opposite.⁠

Has this job been hard at times? Hell yes it has. Has it nearly broken me? Yep. But, I am not fragile. I can do hard things.⁠

I created a FB group that is just for Women in EMS, where women go to get encouraged, supported, and told “Yes, you CAN do this”. It’s the most beautiful thing.⁠

On the anniversary of 9/11/2001 I asked the ladies to share their memories from that day, and it was EMOTIONAL to read them all. We have ladies that were babies….yes babies when it happened, and many ladies who had family members at Ground Zero and some that were there themselves. To have a group where the women felt safe to share and be so vulnerable was such a gift to us all.⁠

My hope is that ALL EMS WOMEN will be in this group.

It’s gonna be fun to see what we can accomplish. ⁠

Love you ladies. See you inside.⁠

xox. Valerie⁠

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I can’t sleep

When you can't sleep

I’m not talking about when you’re at work and can’t sleep. ⁠

I’m talking about when you are at home, in your own bed, and you j u s t. C a n ‘ t. S l e e p! 🤬⁠

You toss and turn. You try all the things to get the F*ck to sleep and nothing works. ⁠

Finally morning arrives, and it feels like you’ve been hit by a bus. Eyes puffy from lack of sleep. You are dragging. No amount of coffee can help. All you talk about all day is how you didn’t get any sleep. You’re so tired. You’re exhausted. You need a nap. You eat a bunch of crap food to try and wake up. You can’t do anything because you are so tired. On and on.⁠

This was me for years. I mean decades. I told myself this is why I was in EMS. I can’t sleep most nights, so I might as well be up taking care of sick people! ⁠

I learned a ton about sleep and changed many of my habits. But, every once in a while, I will have a night where despite my good sleep hygiene and pre-sleep routine, I just can’t sleep.⁠

So what do you do after a sleepless night?⁠

You need a mindset upgrade. ⁠

Stop telling everyone how tired you are. No one cares. Sorry, not sorry.⁠

Stop living in the problem, it’s just going to make you more tired! 🤯⁠

Think some thoughts that will create energy instead of depleting it.⁠

Here are some of the ones I use…⁠

I have all the energy I need to get this done.⁠
I create energy with my thoughts.⁠
I can be tired AND make lunch.⁠
I can be tired AND take the dog for a walk.⁠
I can take a nap if I want to.⁠
I can listen to my body and make good choices.⁠

Was I tired all day? Yeppers. Did I do less than I normally do? Sure did. Did I beat the crap out of myself for having a slow day? Nope.⁠

Hope you sleep well tonight my friends!⁠

xo. Valerie⁠

PS.Did you hear? I’m hosting a Workshop in mid October on how to create an eating protocol {you will actually follow} for Weight Loss. It’s going to be just what you need to head in to the holiday season and not gain more weight! If you are interested, send me a DM and I’ll give you more deets. ⁠

PPS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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Do your Part

Are you doing your part?⁠

We like to talk about all the reasons why we “can’t” do our part when it comes to our weight loss (or life for that matter!)⁠

🔹My work schedule is too irregular⁠
🔹My kids love to eat pasta⁠
🔹I have to stay up late doing the dishes and laundry⁠
🔹I’m just too tired⁠
🔹My spouse doesn’t support me⁠
🔹It’s too expensive⁠

I used to call these excuses. ⁠

Now, I call them obstacles.⁠

When we call them excuses, we are acting like victims. Like we have no control over them.⁠

When we call them obstacles, we feel more in control. Like we can overcome them.⁠

Are you doing your part in creating ways to overcome your own obstacles?⁠

I can’t do this for you. YOU have to do YOUR part.⁠

You actually don’t need to know how…you just have to have the desire to figure it out.⁠

Get creative. Remember, losing weight is not complicated. ⁠

🔸Assess hunger/fullness⁠
🔸Begin upping your water intake⁠
🔸Commit to protecting and prioritizing your sleep⁠
🔸Decide what you will eat ahead of time⁠
🔸Exercise. No crazy work out..just move your bod.⁠

What obstacles are really getting in the way of you doing that? Do your part and overcome them!⁠

xoxo. Valerie⁠

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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Transition Times & Weight Gain

Most people think they gain weight because they are eating too much food and not working out enough.

This is only PART of the problem.

When I discovered that I really struggle with Transition Times, it opened up my eyes to an area that was causing weight gain.]

In this video I will teach you where to be on the look out for transitions and some solutions!

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FREE Resources

1. Grab a copy of my FREE GUIDE, where I will teach you the ONE thing you need to know to Lose Weight…On Duty or Off!

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Be Well and Be Safe up there!

xo.  Valerie Bestland

Consistency is KEY

“Steadfast adherence to the same principles” that is the definition of the word “Consistency”.⁠
Steadfast Adherence. That sounds pretty intense!⁠
I like the word consistent much better.⁠
If you want to lose weight, you have to be consistent.⁠
You get this intellectually…⁠
The real problem you need to solve is why aren’t you?⁠
Why aren’t you doing what you know you need to do to lose weight?⁠
Or, why do you do it for a while then stop?⁠
Until you know this answer my friend, permanent weight loss will always be a pipe dream.⁠
You might be wondering HOW do you find this out?⁠
This is the power of coaching. THIS is what I help people with.⁠
Consistency really is the KEY.⁠
Be safe out there.⁠
xo. Valerie⁠
 

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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What is Possible?

What is possible is up to you

Do you spend time thinking about why things are “impossible” for you?⁠
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What if you started think about what could be possible?⁠
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I know this for sure, it feels a hell of a lot better than thinking about impossibility!⁠
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Impossible is only TEMPORARY when you focus on what is possible.⁠
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Start by never saying these words again “it’s impossible for me to lose weight right now”.⁠
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Reframe it with “it could be POSSIBLE for me to lose weight right now”⁠
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Practice thinking that thought, on purpose, many times per day.⁠
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See what happens.⁠
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What is possible for you is totally up to YOU.⁠
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Have a lovely weekend.⁠
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xo. Valerie⁠

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Free FOOD

Free food

The Food we eat matters.⁠

What we put inside out bodies shows up in how our bodies look on the outside.⁠

I know that a lot of places are giving EMS and Healthcare workers “free food”.⁠

But is it really “free”?⁠

It might not cost you money for that food, but it will cost you something.⁠

Are you willing to keep paying for that overweight body?⁠

Just because something is “free” does not mean you have to eat it either.⁠

You don’t need a fast food restaurant giving you free food to feel appreciated.⁠

The feeling of appreciation comes only from your thoughts….not the free things companies are giving away to EMS and Healthcare workers.⁠

Appreciate yourself.⁠

Appreciate others.⁠

I dare you to tell 5 people today how much you appreciate them. ⁠

Be safe out there!⁠

xo. Valerie⁠

PS. I made a video just for you called the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.  Please click the button below to watch it!

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Negativity

Happy

If you are feeling like the world is so negative right now listen up.⁠

Why are you focusing on the negativity?⁠

Our brain is built with negativity bias. It is constantly looking for negativity as a way to keep us safe. ⁠

Good to know, and thank you brain for trying to keep me safe.⁠

Did you know that you can choose to focus on the positive? Yep, even during a pandemic.⁠

My husband is the best at this. But, he works at it. ⁠

This is really hard for me. I like focus on the negative. I think it feels protective in a way. ⁠

What sucks, is that when I focus on the negative things I feel shitty. ⁠

Then my brain offers up ways to feel better…and the quickest way to do that is with food. Especially sweets. I eat them, then guess what??? I feel shitty again.⁠

This turns into a negative feedback loop.⁠

I can see now when this is starting for me and I have to force myself out of the negative feedback loop.⁠

Here’s how I change my perspective….I start thinking about everything I am grateful for. Start with your body, get specific…I am grateful for my brain, my vision, the sense of smell, the taste of my favorite food, my ears to hear the sounds of my kids laughing….you get the idea. ⁠

If you are feeling really negative at work, see if you can find 25 things to be grateful for…I’m grateful for the helicopter, our mechanics that keep them working and safe, the pilots for having the skills and knowledge to fly, Zoll monitor to monitor patients, and so on.⁠

This takes practice and patience.⁠

Give it a try and see how you feel. ⁠

I am so grateful for you.⁠

You can do this. WE can do this!!⁠

xoxo. Valerie⁠

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

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Open to both Women and Men in EMS is my EMS Weight Loss & Well Being private FB Page.  To join, click HERE.

Shadows of Stress

AC shadow

Shadow of stress. That is what I see in this photo.⁠

The stress follows us, everywhere we go.⁠

It is always there.⁠

The stress of flight physiology on our bodies.⁠

Day after day.⁠

You might not realize how this is impacting your weight.⁠

But it is. ⁠

We learn about what flight physiology does to our patients, and we talk about how it can affect the pilots…but, do we stop and think about how this affects the patient care provider?⁠

No, because we are so focused on taking care of the patient that we completely ignore ourselves.⁠

Over time, this not paying attention to our own stressors of flight will negatively effect us.⁠

To build resiliency to the stressors of flight, we need to be proactive, no reactive.⁠

Hydrate. Set a timer if you have to. Especially since most of us a masking all day at work…you gotta get that water in your body.⁠

Sleep. Make this a priority and protect your sleep. ⁠

Get physical. Move your body. Workout. Run. Walk. Bike. Get that heart pumping. I hear people giving radio reports with masks on and they are totally short of breath…We need to build our endurance. ⁠

Eat nutritious, whole foods. Fat, Protein, Veg, Fruit, Whole Grains. Eat foods that make you FEEL amazing, not bogged down, heavy, and needing a nap after you eat.⁠

Practice deep breathing. Having the ability to suppress the sympathetic nervous system is key to reducing stress. Just 5 slow, deep breaths will lower your heart rate, and reduce cortisol levels. Do this…a lot. On your way to a call. During the call, while taking care of the patient, after the call, when you are checking your 390th email of the day….Get really good at it, so when you are feeling overwhelmed with stress, you know relief is just 5 deeps breaths away!⁠

You can do this. WE can do this.⁠

Much love and appreciation to you all.⁠

xo. Valerie⁠

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

Come join my communities!  

If you are a WOMEN in EMS, click HERE to join the ALL EMS WOMEN private FB Page!

Open to both Women and Men in EMS is my EMS Weight Loss & Well Being private FB Page.  To join, click HERE.

Stay Well EMS

Stay Well EMS

Good morning!⁠

As many of us head in to work this morning I want you to think about how you can stay well while on Duty.⁠

What would that look like for you?⁠

Are you willing to put your brain to work and figure out how to drink a few extra bottles of water today?⁠

What about deciding to only eat when you are hungry and stop when you feel satisfied…not full?⁠

How can you move you move your body while not on a call?⁠

What about when you feel the stress building up while en route to a trauma? Can you take 4 slow very deep breaths? ⁠

If you do have a bad trauma and you are feeling especially stressed when you clear the hospital (and your not driving!) pull out your phone and play a game on your phone for a few min.⁠

I know these things seem small and don’t seem like they matter, but my friends, they do. ⁠

Taking care of ourselves during this pandemic is critical.⁠

Have a safe day.⁠

xo. Val⁠

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.


Come join my communities!  

If you are a WOMEN in EMS, click HERE to join the ALL EMS WOMEN private FB Page!

Open to both Women and Men  in EMS is my EMS Weight Loss & Well Being private FB Page.  To join, click HERE.

Self Care is NOT Selfish

Self care is not selfish

Self Care might seem “selfish” at a time like this.⁠

But, this time….this time of COVID-19 our Self-Care is the most important thing.⁠

This can mean many different things to many different people at many different times.⁠

For me, while at work Self-Care is:⁠
*Donning and doffing PPE properly and in as much time as needed⁠
*Eating only when I’m hungry. Stopping when satisfied⁠
*Setting my alarm to drink water⁠
*Taking deep breaths when I feel myself getting stressed⁠
*Talking to my partner about thoughts that are running around in my head⁠
*Getting outside for some fresh air ⁠
*Putting my earbuds in and listening to my favorite songs⁠

At Home my Self-Care looks a little different.⁠
*Prioritizing and Protecting my Sleep⁠
*Planning my food and movement ⁠
*Writing my thoughts down in a journal⁠
*Drinking 1 gallon of water⁠
*Managing my time very intentionally⁠
*Writing in my journal⁠
*Meditating for 5-10 min per day⁠
*Taking the dog for a walk⁠
*Tech free eating⁠
*Listening to books and podcast that move me forward toward my goals⁠
*Hot bath before bed⁠
*Being real and honest with my kids in those rare, still moments⁠

I would love to hear what you do for Self-Care!⁠

Be safe out there my friends. The world needs you.⁠

xo. Valerie⁠

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

Come join my communities!  

If you are a WOMEN in EMS, click HERE to join the ALL EMS WOMEN private FB Page!

Open to both Women and Men in EMS is my EMS Weight Loss & Well Being private FB Page.  To join, click HERE.

C h a n g e

Do you have the courage to change?
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Yes, you need courage to change when you want to lose weight.
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You need to have the courage to say “No Thank You” to the pizza everyone else is eating while you eat your leftovers!
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It will take courage to put on those workout clothes and try that hot yoga class.
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It will take courage to make changes in your life. Some people won’t like what you are doing. It’s ok. It’s not their journey. .
If you have the courage to lose weight, imagine what else could be possible!
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XO. Valerie
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PS. Want to watch a Free video training I did just for those of us in EMS?  Click the blue button below to watch it!

Knowledge

Knowledge

Everyone wants more knowledge.
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We believe that the solution to our problems lies somewhere in more information/learning/knowledge.
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Our brain loves to learn new things.
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The brain thinks it is useful to keep learning more.
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It feels like we are doing something productive when we are learning more about our problems.
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But learning more does not produce more action.
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We can learn all about snowboarding, but until we actually go snowboarding we will not learn how to do it.
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Learning about how to lose weight will not make us good at losing weight.
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We have to do things, change things, plan things to lose weight.
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Spend time trying and doing things that will bring you closer to your goal weight.
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I help people stop focusing on their problem and start taking action on the solution.
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What actions can you take today that will move you closer to your goal? Tell me in the comments!
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xo Val

PS. Watch the FREE video training I made on the ABC’s of Weight Loss for EMS.   Just click the blue button below to watch the video.

Come join my communities!  

If you are a WOMEN in EMS, click HERE to join the ALL EMS WOMEN private FB Page!

Open to both Women and Men  in EMS is my EMS Weight Loss & Well Being private FB Page.  To join, click HERE.