Listen up EMS….your goal should not be to feel less stress.⁠
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You are going to feel that way because of the jobs we do. ⁠
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The goal is to learn how to process your stress in a way that does not create MORE stress.⁠
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We try to feel less stress by distracting ourselves from it. Eating, drinking, shopping, TV watching, gambling, porn…this does not make you feel less stress. ⁠
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The problem is that in the moments we are distracting ourselves from the stress, we feel good thanks to thinking about the food/ETOH, etc and the dopamine hit we get from doing those things. ⁠
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Your feeling of stress will wait for you. It always does. Now, you’ve just compounded your stress. And, you feel worse. ⁠
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Look, I’ve been there, hell, I still go there. I get it. It still is not the solution to the stress.⁠
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Just being aware that this is going on is super helpful. Pay attention.⁠
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xo. Valerie⁠