“I don’t want to”

My kids say this all of the time.

My clients also say this.

Do you say this?

I have some really good news for you…..you don’t have to WANT to do something to do it.

Wait, huh?

I’ll give you some examples.

Daughter: I don’t want to go to school today.

Mom: You don’t have to want to go to school to go.

Son: I don’t want to go for a family walk.

Mom: I get it, you don’t have to want to go on the family walk to go for the walk.

Client: I don’t want to plan my food.  I don’t want to keep a food journal.  I don’t want to drink all that water.  

Coach:  You don’t have to want to do all those things, you just decide you will do them.  

Do you want to lose weight?  If you want to lose weight, you are going to have to learn how to do things even when you don’t want to.

Our primitive brain does not want us to do new things.  It likes things to stay the same.  

Here’s the problem, if you keep doing the same things, you will keep getting the same results.

Can you see that?

We seem to have developed this entitlement, that we should only do things we WANT to do.

This is letting our primitive brain (your inner toddler) run our lives.  It only cares about seeking pleasure, avoiding pain, and staying efficient.  We have to learn how to override our primitive brains motivational triad.  We do this by using our pre-frontal cortex (the supervising parent).

We have to let go of this belief that we have to want to do something to do it.

I don’t want to go to work, yet, I show up for every shift.

I don’t want to clean the bathroom, yet, I do it every few days (ummm, I have three boys in the house and they all prefer using “my” bathroom).

I don’t want to plan and prep my food every week, yet, I want to maintain my weight loss.

I don’t want to keep track of all my spending, yet, I want next tax season to be stress free.

We use the power of our pre-frontal cortex to decide, on purpose what we need to do….and know that our primitive brain (toddler) will have a fit, and that’s ok. Just like the calm parent attempts to re-direct the fit-throwing toddler…”I hear you brain, I know you don’t want to do all this planning of food for the week…but, I decided it is what is best for us and we are just going to do it anyways.” And then you do it.  

It feels amazing when you do things you planned ahead of time.  Developing this skill of having your own back, no matter what, is really the secret to the universe.

If you can depend on anyone, it should be on yourself.

Wanting to lose is easy.  Deciding to make the changes is hard.

I help my clients learn to make decisions ahead of time with their pre-frontal cortex, and have their own back.

I don’t sell my clients some quick fix pill, bar, shake, or meal plan….I sell them on themselves.

You have the highest ROI when you invest in yourself.

Let’s get on a FREE consult call and I can tell you how my approach to weight loss is very different than anything you have done in the past!

Click on the blue “Book Now” button below and pick and day and time that works for you.  

I can’t wait to talk to you!

xxoo.  Valerie

PS.  Summer is just around the corner…you know what that means!  Vest season is OVER.  That’s all I’m gonna say 😉